To the attention of:

US Senators from Texas: John Cornyn, Kay Bailey Hutchison;
US Representatives from Texas: Al Green, Blake Farenthold, Charles A. Gonzalez, Chet Edwards, Eddie Bernice Johnson, Francisco R. Canseco, Gene Green, Henry Cuellar, Jeb Hensarling, Joe Barton, John Abney Culberson, John R. Carter, K. Michael Conaway, Kay Granger, Kenny Marchant, Kevin Brady, Lamar Smith, Lloyd Doggett, Louie Gohmert, Mac Thornberry, Michael C. Burgess, Michael T. McCaul, Pete Olson, Pete Sessions, Ralph M. Hall, Randy Neugebauer, Ron Paul, Ruben Hinojosa, Sam Johnson, Sheila Jackson Lee, Silvestre Reyes, Ted Poe;
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Post Open Letter to your Elected Representatives

My soul-mate goes into surgery in two days. I am so far away from her and she is all alone in this country in which she knows very few people and does not speak the language. I just want to be with her... either be there when she dies, or when she survives. Does anyone ACTUALLY come here looking for people to help, or are we all a bunch of desperate, poor losers grasping at straws?

This is my fiancee who has been waiting for me in Spain for two years. She is from Bulgaria. We have been a couple for 4 years. I talked her into leaving her country 2 years ago. I still have not made it to her side.

I made a song out of your poem. Hope you liked it Sherry. Take care.

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dXZ8_UYKPww

Hi

When you log back in go to my blog 

 http://starshine1.aidpage.com/

go to second page of my blog -Cancer help for any women going through cancer  The organization called now and said to click on the Canadian tab to see if it is available in your area..It is house cleaning free for women with cancer...

Good luck

Starshine

Well sorry about that, hopefully other people will see the link. The income guidelines have increased in alot of the programs now. If I run accross something else I will look you up.

Mike

Hi Mike,

I'm sorry, I think I failed to mention that we are Canadian citizens. I looked up the PAP program as you suggested and to qualify you must be an American citizen. We have various programs here in Canada that offer limited coverage to those who fall bellow the poverty line. Although we are very grateful to live in a peace loving, democratic country, our family doesn't fall within the poverty line. I appreciate your advice and I thank you for directing us to a potential resource. Thank you , again

Natasha Reid

Please give a PAP program a try at www.scbn.com they have a program for non generics at 20.00 a month no matter what the quantity.

mike

Thank you for explaining and Alberta, Canada is beautiful. I will have to refresh my memory and look it up later as I think Lake Louise, plus some other places I saw when I was way younger is in Alberta Canada and this big hotel in town of Baniff is in that providence.

I hope the drug company can reduce the rate of the drug your wife needs. We have the same problem here with cost of drugs and some people go elsewhere to get them cheaper..

Yes, you are lucky!!!

Take care

I was brushing Nat's hair and she asked me what was on my mind... I told her I made an appeal for help on a web site. She asked me to read her some of the stories, and after having done so, instead of sleeping, all i can hear is my wife's outrage!

I love my wife, she is sure one in a million. After injecting and running her iv meds, frequently moaning from the pain of shifting her body, she requests of me, " darling, you must clarify what your true need is and please honey, be helpful..."

So, here goes...I thought I could slip into bed ignoring my conscience and filing my wife's request under the " when i have time, pile". No sleeping for me, not till i am more clear about what my need is.

Firstly, we are very fortunate, we did have a house to sell, so we were never homeless. As a result of the sale we moved into a rental, we sold our car, but we live in a city where i can take the public transit to work. I have a job, i work as a temp for Canada Post although we don't have benefits the money i do make does cover rent and basic needs. My wife insists that if its ever too much financially, emotionally or physically she will willingly and without judgement go into palliative care at the hospital. Our doctor somehow always seems to find a way to give us samples of meds, a delivery of medical supplies is always delivered anonymously to our door... Our oldest son who is 18 has given up many of his free hours to sit and read to his mother, cooks supper and stays with her 2 days a week while i work. Our rabbit, Lollaloop always has clean fresh litter and food- provided by Paradise Pets free of charge weekly. Our children have never been hungry, homeless or unable to access quality health care. My wife saw our oldest son graduate from high school and we helped her dance with him at the celebration. My wife's parents would die for my wife if it meant they could ease her suffering. Our church collected $410.00 just because!

My point is, i didn't mean to be so selfish. Natalie is right, there are so many of you that have so little and money is always useful and can ease so much discomfort. But there are so many that need more than we do.

Clarify my need...I sometimes want to vent, i want someone to cry with, i want my wife's suffering to end, i want to be holding her when she passes, i want to know that its ok to be angry sometimes, i want to know that when my wife passes i will no regrets, i want to know why someone so innately good suffers so much, i want our children to remember their mother and all the great things she did with them, i want to remember Natalie as a wife and not my wife with cancer... can i be clearer, probably but im just mired in this guilt for having asked for help when its clear that there are more deserving than us.

Off to bed now, feeling a little lighter. Help can come in many forms, if I can be of any help dont hesitate to ask.

My heart and my prayers, are with you and your wife, and family. If I had any money whatsoever I would give it to you in a heartbeat. I do know alot of people though, and I will pass your story on to anyone I think is in a position of helping. I am also going to enter you, your wife, and family in my prayer circle. God is the GREAT DOCTOR so please don't ever give up hope. I will be praying for ya'll.

God Bless

You are welcome and it was my pleasure to help. I wish I could find more for you. Does any program such in Ontario, Canada would helpyou too? I have been to many parts of Canada long ago but not familiar with the government there..

Take care and wishing you the best care for your wife..

Starshine

Thank you for your reply, I will visit their site and let you know the outcome. Thank you for taking time out of your busy life to provide us with this contact. Thank you, again.

Sincerely,

Natasha

I am sorry your wife has terminal cancer...just very, very sorry.

I looked for some help in Canada and came up with hospice and they do help out..

Here is the link...

http://www.pilgrimshospice.ca/page.asp?fb=11

there is another program and it is in my blog but they were closed so I don't know if it for the United States or Canada only...

hoping things improve...

Starshine

Out of desperation and with no dignity left, i am appealing for help. My wife, Natalie, was diagnosed with non-hodgkin's lymphoma early last spring, after being in remission for almost seven years. Unfortunately this bought with cancer is terminal. I promised Natalie that she would die at home when the time came. I leave my wife alone everyday i go to work. I need to work as I have exhausted all our financial resources and simply have no choice, regardless of how cruel leaving her is. Caring for my wife at home is expensive and beyond any of my resources. We don't qualify for medical benefits as my wife had a previous pre-existing condition. Welfare is not an option unless we are willing to be deceptive. If you had the pleasure of meeting my wife you would know that she is regarded as an honest, generous and caring woman. I would like to take care of my wife and have her die at home in my arms surrounded by her children and bunny, Lollaloop. I'm failing miserably, i don't know what else to do but beg for help. We are proud people, who no longer have the luxury of pride or dignity. If you can help and you may have advice on how to gain help, i would be greatly in you debt. I have sold everything of any value, however i do have a piece of wood that someone may find valuable. When my wife was diagnosed with cancer the first time, her father in-law was cutting down a tree nub and on the face of this nub is the image of what appears to be an angel or the virgin Mary. We've kept it all this time its really the only thing i can think of that someone might find valuable.

I am willing to provide financial records, medical records and references to provide proof of our dire situation.

If you take anything from our story, i plead with you to lobby our government to develop and implement programs to help those families who don't qualify or refuse to deceive the government to access welfare and other government agencies providing desperately needed medical care and medications.

Thank you,

Natasha Reid

and be sure that his presence will always be with you,your very strong and the warmth inside you will always be there,i will be thinking of u , bye

M.Karthic and his brother Barathi are with Bethel Orphanage for the last 7 years.  Both the parents were victims of HIV and were killed. But now Karthic has the tracs of HIV, throat gland and Heart valve congession. This was an un-expected developed. We are shocked and broken. Innocent children who just begin to blossom had to go through these difficulties. We are giving him care.

For further investigation, and for a by-pass if neeced we need your prayers and support. Please!visit www.bethelerc.org and from there you can send donations through paypal. We will despatch officla receipts to you.

Thanks a lot!

Sincerely,

Rev.Dass.T

Director

Thank you Curley I am honered to have you as a friend... I think he is pretty handsome too...lol

Curley,

You are a gifted and kind spirit.  This post was very touching.  Thank you for sharing publicly.

Elaine

Oh Curly, Thank you... Thank you... Thank you! That is so beautiful and the words I needed to hear.. I am printing it out and framing it to keep next to my bed... You know just what a person needs to hear...  God, how I needed to read that.... You have no idea of how you have just brought a peace of mind for this mother... THANK YOU!

Will I be able to say goodbye when that time comes.  Will I be able to speak the words that dont roll easily off my tounge. Will I be able to let you go away from this world.Will I say those words that I know will tear my heart into... Yes my son, I can do that for
you.  Because of the love I have for you, I will be able to
say goodbye to you....  
I know thats the only way you will leave here in peace, is
to hear that from me

Dear Cathy,

Cancer is a horrible ordeal for anyone to contend with.  It is heartwrenching to watch a loved one with this battle.  Hopefully you will be able to find some help with what you are facing on the following links:

http://terminallyill.org/nati/index.php

https://www.iononline.com/display.aspx?cid=CoPayAssistanceFoundations.cms

http://www.cancercare.org/about_us/

http://www.genome.gov/11008842#assistance

http://www.caringinfo.org/AboutUs.htm

http://caregiver.org/caregiver/jsp/content_node.jsp?nodeid=1274

God be with you.

Elaine

Cathy, Are your mother and your family open to the thought of creamation? It is much less expensive than your average funerals. I think they run as cheap as $800 to a thousand dollars (for creamation). You can buy your own urn from anywhere. This will also eliminate the need for a burial plot if she does not already have one. I know this is NOT for everyone and is a very difficult decision. This is just a thought to help in the finance department that one can check out. I am so sorry your mother is ill. I will pray that she does not have need of funeral services at all any time soon. Take care, ekikaseven

I'm trying to find money for funeral expenses for my mom.  She was diagnosed with lung cancer that had spread to her brain abut 4 months ago.  She had a stroke last week and the docs didn't think she would make it through the day but she has surprised everyone.  All the doctors agree though that the cancer will kill her in the next 6 months.  She has no life insurance and is on social security.  I have moved her in with me but I am a single mother of 4.  I have been doing what I can to take care of her and continue to work but I am only getting like 20 hours a week in lately.  The bills are already getting behind.  I worry that I will not be able to pay the rent.  I don't know how I can come up with money to take care of funeral expenses.  Will you please help me?  I want to take care of my mom and I don't want her to worry about these things anymore.  Thank you and God bless you.

Cathy